Are You a Victim of Stress? Stop and Be a Hero Instead!

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Making the Stress in Your Life Productive!

There is no such thing as a stress-free life! No matter who you are, how wealthy you are, or how successful you have become, you will always have stress in your life. Life is a beautiful thing that is full of different events and surprises! Instead of dreading these stressors, we should embrace life and all the opportunities it has to offer.
In my previous blogs, I have addressed anxiety and the power of positive thinking. This blog will take things a step further. In battling with anxiety, it is easy to become overwhelmed with stressful situations. Change and stress are inevitable; we will always meet them in our lives. Currently I am going through a lot of changes and dealing with a lot of stress. However, positive changes are causing most of it! I recently graduated with my bachelor’s degree, moved to a new house, was in my best friends wedding, and had family from out-of-town staying with me – all in a matter of two weeks!  But, even when it’s positive stress, sometimes our bodies and minds have trouble recognizing the difference. The trick is to control the stress and not allowing it to control you! Be the hero of your own life – not the victim of the stressful moments!
There is good stress and bad stress that are within and outside our control. By having a better understanding of these two types of stress, you can embrace and better adapt to stressful changes in your life.

Good Stress

Stress is the body’s response to changes that create taxing demands. Good stress, or eustress is the type of stress we feel when we feel excited. Typically during these types of stress, your pulse quickens, and your hormones change, but there is no threat or fear involved.  One good way to help identify eustress is listening to your first emotional response to the stress. Did you get excited?  Did you want to take part in the activity? If so, it is most likely a good stress. Embrace these changes and stress. Be careful though. If you allow even these good stressors to take over your mind they can convert over to bad stressors.[1]
Eustress is short-term.  It will motivate you and take the focus of your energy.  It will give you the feeling of excitement and can even improve your performance.[2] [Click to Tweet]
Examples of positive stressors include:
  • Receiving a promotion or raise at work
  • Starting a new job
  • Marriage
  • Buying a home
  • Having a child
  • Moving
  • Taking a vacation
  • Holiday seasons
  • Retiring
  • Taking educational classes or learning a new hobby
  • Graduating from school
  • Riding a roller coaster
  • Going on a first date[3]
Bad Stress
Bad stress, or distress, usually involves feelings of helplessness because you don’t have a lot of control over what’s happening and you may begin to feel compressed or trapped.[4] Distress causes anxiety, excessive worrying, and concern.  We consider it as outside of our coping abilities. Distress will make you feel unpleasant and decreases your performance. Chronic or prolonged distress can lead to serious mental and physical problems.
Below are some examples of stressors that may cause distress:
  • The death of a spouse
  • Filing for divorce
  • Losing contact with loved ones
  • The death of a family member
  • Hospitalization (oneself or a family member)
  • Injury or illness (oneself or a family member)
  • Being abused or neglected
  • Separation from a spouse or committed relationship partner
  • Conflict in interpersonal relationships
  • Bankruptcy/Money Problems
  • Unemployment
  • Sleep problems
  • Children’s problems at school
  • Legal problems
  • Relationship trouble
  • Ongoing high demands at work with little to no reprieve
  • Unhealthy thinking such as: fears/phobias, repetitive thought patterns, worrying about future events, unrealistic, perfectionist expectations[5]
Concurring Stress!
There are many ways we can help ourselves deal with and overcome stressful situations. The first thing we need to do is accept the things you cannot change and have the strength to change the things you can. Stop feeling guilty and start praising or motivating yourself to become better! Please avoid being a perfectionist and setting yourself up for failure. On the other hand, eliminate procrastination altogether. Prepare yourself as much as possible for events and situations.  That way, when they happen, you can sit back and enjoy them! Another great tip is to prioritize your life. This includes setting daily, weekly, yearly, and life goals! Helping others is another great way to take yourself out of a negative stress situation and into a more positive state.  [Click to Tweet]
Stress doesn’t is not always a bad thing, and it will always exist.  Embrace what life has in store for us, and live life to the fullest!
Missty Klinger
July 19, 2015
www.balancingyourchemistry.com
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[1] Elizabeth Scott, M.S. (2014). What Kind Of Stress Is Good For You. Retrieved from http://stress.about.com/od/stressbasics/a/Good-Stress-When-Stress-Is-Good-For-You.htm
[2] Id.
[3] Harry Mills, Ph.D., Natalie Reiss, Ph.D. and Mark Dombeck, Ph.D. (2015) Types of Stressors (Eustress vs. Distress). Retrieved from http://www.sevencounties.org/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=15644&cn=117
[4] Kimberly Snyder. (2015). HOW CAN YOU TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOOD STRESS AND BAD STRESS? Retrieved from http://kimberlysnyder.com/blog/2014/03/21/can-tell-difference-good-stress-bad-stress/
[5] Id at fn 3.

2 thoughts on “Are You a Victim of Stress? Stop and Be a Hero Instead!

  1. Thank you for the inspiring message! I really can relate to the “Stress” and trying to get so much done each day and feeling bad when I fall short! I will try to change my long ” To Do Lists” into something more manageable each day and prioritize. I will also try to accept the things I cannot change and embrace good stress for new things in my life.
    Matthew

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